Day 22: Molding Your Anger

Devotional: Applying the Bible to my today.

Read: Proverbs 29:11


By Gabrielle Green

Proverbs 29:11 says, “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.”

That stings a bit! This season of turbulence and isolation has brought my anger to the surface far more times than I want to admit. Right now, most everyone is in self-quarantine and space is tight; at least it feels that way.  Emotions run high. Maybe for you, those high emotions manifest as sadness, frustration or worry. For me, rage is the default emotion when I am under stress and it “ain’t” pretty. Many of you know what I’m talking about. You’ve been in the house all week and the child won’t stop crying, a parent won’t stop mentioning the news or your spouse left their dishes out, AGAIN. Take heart and know that you aren’t alone in your anger during this time.

So, how can we mold our anger into something that is honorable to God and to others?

1. Take a Breath

First of all, we HAVE to take a deep breath before responding, or we will respond in anger.

 

2. A Kind Word

Proverbs 15:11 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Dang, that is tough! But, it’s true. Think of all the times that gentleness, kindness, and love have triumphed over anger? This gentle answer doesn’t always look the same, but it should always gentle. So, maybe instead of exploding at our family member, we take a breath and gently explain to them why you are angry.

 

3. Move On

This is so important! Don’t stew in your anger all day; it will only create bitterness and discontentment within you. Instead, lean into what Paul says in Ephesians 4:26, “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” My mom would tell me that all the time. She still does and now I make sure that it is a priority in my marriage. Forgiveness is necessary, especially in times of turbulence and trial. Forgive and be forgiven daily. A practical way to do this is to establish a habit of praying with your family before going to bed each night. I have found that it is very difficult to remain angry at my husband when we pray together.

 

Everyone’s circumstances during this season of isolation are different, but the principle remains the same. Anger brings brokenness and bitterness, while self-control and forgiveness bring an atmosphere of kindness. Don’t let your anger mold you or your home. Mold your anger into something that will bring honor to God and others.